Blog – Maiyo Febi

16Nov

The Value of Boundaries

November 16, 2020By Maiyo Febi0 comment

“Most of your problems would disappear if you had some solid personal boundaries.” Anonymous WHAT IS A BOUNDARY? A boundary is where you draw the line on how people treat or interact with you AND how you treat or interact with yourself. It is a limit that promotes integrity, preserves vitality and advances relationships. Boundaries consist of the limits of what we consider safe and appropriate, according to our unique set of feelings and reactions, individual perceptions, values, goals, concerns, roles we choose to play, etc. Boundaries also tend to vary according to culture, age, gender, race and so on. Boundaries can be set for any area of…

23Jun

Increasing Wisdom

June 23, 2020By Maiyo Febi0 comment

Wisdom, a word we hardly hear in day-to-day conversations, is often thought of as philosophical or something bestowed on the old and experienced. More common related words we hear are clever, intelligent, smart. Loosely defined, wisdom is the ability to reflect on knowledge and experience and consequently have sound judgement to make good decisions. Interestingly, famed King Solomon of the bible asked Yahuah (God) for wisdom when he was struggling to govern his kingdom. Yahuah was impressed that he didn’t ask for long life or riches; things most of us would probably ask for if we are honest. King Solomon proceeded to write the book of proverbs, a…

20May

Courage: An Enduring Quality

May 20, 2020By Maiyo Febi2 Comments

At some point in life, we all go through tough times that stretch our abilities and seem impossible to navigate. To get through these often unpredictable times requires strength, perseverance and hope to name a few. A fundamental trait that creates a good foundation for all other traits is courage. Courage is often confused with bravery; while they’re similar concepts, there is a slight difference. The brave have guts and strength; there’s usually a level of calculation and confrontation with a great risk or feat. Bravery is typically short-lived, like rescuing someone in a burning building or tackling a criminal; there is a surge of emotion and energy…

08May

What’s Your Story?

May 8, 2020By Maiyo Febi0 comment

We’re free to give whatever meaning we want to any situation we find ourselves in. In turn, the meaning we give a situation determines how we respond to it. Meaning is not to be confused with a statement of facts. For example if there is a minus zero balance in your bank account, it’s a fact. The meaning of an empty bank account though, will differ from person to person. One might see it as the end of the world, a time to give up. To another, it may be a wake-up call, a time to work harder. Our freedom to choose meaning or put differently ‘the story…

30Apr

Into the Mind of a Straight Talker

April 30, 2020By Maiyo Febi0 comment

“It’s just the way I am, I’m a straight talker. If people get hurt it’s their problem” I used to say this often and I’m sure you know someone who proudly says this. I was so focused on speaking my truth and that was the most important thing. After working on myself, I identified what drove me to be that way and perhaps you can identify with some of them: Self-righteousness When I spotted something that was wrong or bad, it was a moment for me to demonstrate my rightness by strongly opposing. I justified my harsh directness in the name of righteousness. Desire to prove that I…

09Apr

Hope – A Super Power!

April 9, 2020By Maiyo Febi0 comment

How can you hope for something better when everything is falling apart? Are you not removing yourself from reality? Are you not in denial of what IS? I once read somewhere that whatever you believe is what will happen. So I figured that if this theory is true (which I was skeptical about at the time) I may as well choose to believe in the good stuff because what would be the point in testing it with negative stuff? If it worked, I’d produce misery and suffering. If you’ve never chosen what your stance is when it comes to hope, I encourage you to ponder on it because…

25Mar

Personal Development: The Doorway to Fulfilment

March 25, 2020By Maiyo Febi0 comment

When you hear personal development, what comes to mind? An MBA? Improving your emotional intelligence? A time-management course? It is all of the above, plus more. Personal development is the changes you make on the inside so you can better respond to the outside. It’s about working on yourself to become a realized, happier and balanced person in a chaotic and ever-changing world; Wisdom Times. You may be unaware that you already have a personal development plan in place when it comes to growing your business or taking care of your physical health. Generally, there are eight areas of personal development: Business/Career Physical health Family Finances Relationships Spiritual…

25Mar

Power In Calmness

March 25, 2020By Maiyo Febi0 comment

Are you worried and scared? You are not alone. The corona virus has many of us in this state. Despite the situation, we still have the power to choose how we react. Despite the situation, we still have the power to choose how we react. Here are some tips to help keep you calm: Educate yourself with facts about the situation. Based on what you know, do what you can. Surround yourself with uplifting content. This doesn’t mean be naïve or ignorant; choose to be positive. Avoid negative people that will influence you with fear. Trust that we are going through this. Pray and have faith. Some choose…

01Mar

Self-Love in the Workplace

March 1, 2020By Maiyo Febi0 comment

What comes to mind when you think of self-love? A day at the spa? A healthy meal? A bottle of your favourite cognac? While these certainly affirm self-love, at the core of self-love is the belief that you are a valuable and worthy person. A practical definition is “To take care of yourself like you’d take care of a friend in distress. You treat yourself kindly. You don’t nitpick and criticize yourself. Self-love is a practice and it’s a skill that takes work.” Do you believe that you are a valuable and worthy person? Here are 10 ways you can demonstrate self-love in the workplace. Learn to say…

28Jan

Always Right is Wrong

January 28, 2020By Maiyo Febi0 comment

Do you have a friend or family member that always thinks they are right? It doesn’t matter what the situation is or how obvious their errors are, they always have a way of justifying what they do, no matter how messed up it seems. Is it possible that you could be that person that always thinks they are right? On the surface, the fixation with being right may look like selfishness, arrogance and a lack of self-awareness. Underneath it though, it’s usually; insecurity, self-doubt, fear, low self-esteem or a bruised ego. Healthy relationships are made up of a good balance of being right and being wrong. Sometimes…

19Jan

Worry is not Your Friend!

January 19, 2020By Maiyo Febi0 comment

Now that we are done with the festive season, it’s back to business as usual! Worry may be creeping in about bills, your on-going struggles or how you are going to achieve your 2020 goals. Big newsflash! Worry is not your friend! At first glance it may seem like it is as it gives you a false sense of showing concern for the future. In actual fact, worry can deplete your ability to think creatively thus impeding on your chances of taking action and finding a solution. At best, worry makes you irritable, keeps you up night or pushes you to take decisive action. At worst excessive or…

16Jan

January Joy is Possible!

January 16, 2020By Maiyo Febi0 comment

The anticipation for January salaries is probably driving most people insane. Family outings, social gatherings and shopping over the festive season have left people spent. What now? It’s time to reflect on what you could have done better (or limited) to make sure you don’t repeat the same cycle this December. If you don’t, you’ll be in the exact same position this time next year. Putting a savings plan together for the festive season can be off-putting; some even view it as a sign of lack; it’s not. It’s a sign of financial maturity and taking responsibility for your spending. Decide now how much you are going to spend…

06Jan

Be You – Always!

January 6, 2020By Maiyo Febi0 comment

One thing that I struggled to be earlier in life is MYSELF. I always wanted to behave in a way that would be likeable to the other person, especially when it came to work and business. I went to great lengths researching perceived important people that I was due to meet, and then performed in a way that I thought would impress; the intention was to get what I want. Approval. We all have a desire to be accepted by friends, family and colleagues etc. and at times go to great lengths in our quest for approval. One of the key drivers is we want to belong and…

30Dec

Why is Change Tough?

December 30, 2019By Maiyo Febi2 Comments

Everything around us changes constantly, trees grow; new products enter the market; and, children become adults. In a way we have conditioned ourselves to accept these types of changes because we view them as the natural order of life. When it comes to relationships turning sour or retrenchment, we struggle. What is it about these kinds of changes that are so hard to accept? One of the major reasons is we pour so much of ourselves into relationships and jobs; we work at them daily and put in spiritual, physical and mental effort. We then expect to get our returns by things going the way we want them…

23Dec

Love Is So Much More Than a Good Feeling!

December 23, 2019By Maiyo Febi2 Comments

Did you know that you are at your best when you are filled with love? Human beings are wired for love and connection. I’m referring to that deep sense of connection with others i.e. family, friends, an intimate partner, God; not just being in love. The most obvious thing about a person filled with love is their behaviour and energy; there’s an easiness and endearing quality about them; on a biological level, cells are vibrant and healthy. Love is not just a philosophical topic for religionists; it is a scientifically proven antidote to many of life’s challenges with benefits like less anxiety, increased energy and faster healing. An…

16Dec

5 things to Focus on to Achieve your New Year’s Resolutions

December 16, 2019By Maiyo Febi0 comment

What’s your new year’s resolution? To lose weight? Get a new job? End a toxic relationship? Statistics show that most of us won’t achieve our goals because at some point it will get difficult and defeat will set in. What can you do to increase the chances of success? Here are 5 tips to help you along the way: BELEIVE. Do you believe and have faith that your goal can come true? Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. What evidence is there in the things you do and say to show your belief? If you know you don’t believe deep…

09Dec

Give, It’s Good For You!

December 9, 2019By Maiyo Febi0 comment

Its a season of parties, gifts, monetary contributions, get-togethers; for some of us it may be a season of dread and avoidance because the pressure to give is unbearable. Generally there are 4 types of givers: Theatrical giver – this type of person is typically a show off and they want to be applauded for giving. Conventional – this type gives because it is expected, so it must be done. Transactional ‐ this type gives because there is a guaranteed expected return. Moral giver – this type gives because God says so. People who struggle to give generally believe they don’t have enough and are insecure/fearful of what may…

19Aug

Follow Your Own Path

August 19, 2019By Maiyo Febi0 comment

For many years of my life I lived up to what my environment expected of me. My parents taught me that education and a job equals happiness. Their template for the good life was get educated, married, have kids, buy a nice car, be a manager, buy a nice house and you are set for life. So this is exactly what I did! When I ticked everything off my list, there was nothing at the top; no fulfilment, no contentment. I still wanted more! We all go through something similar at some point, right? We get fed up of what is, but don’t know what better looks like. …

31Jul

Believe, Even When Nobody Else Does

July 31, 2019By Maiyo Febi0 comment

There are many firsts happening in Africa right now. Nigerian star, Yemi Alade became the first African female artist to reach one million subscribers on her YouTube channel. In just one day, a world record-breaking 350 million trees were planted in Ethiopia as part of efforts to tackle deforestation and climate change. In South Africa, 20 teenagers from vastly different backgrounds built an aircraft and successfully flew it from Cape Town to Cairo. I’m sure at some point, the individuals behind these accomplishments were called crazy, too daring, over the top; but look at them NOW! What are you working so hard on that people think you’re insane?…

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