Are you disciplined to do the every-day small things that bring long-term results? Discipline can be a negative word for some. Pictures of a deprived boring life with zero indulgence and strict routines might be your interpretation. I see discipline like an older friend who tells you the truth you don’t like but need to hear, and after you’ve heard it, you’re glad you did. It can be a painful process that demands sacrifice but…
Women empowerment initiatives happen often. The more I see workshops, seminars, dialogues etc. targeting women, the more I worry about the men. I hardly ever hear about initiatives that specifically empower men. What initiatives speak to our fathers, husbands, sons – the men in our lives? What are our men talking about? I asked the men in my circles this question and their response was generally dismissive “Talking is for women” or “Men talk about…
I have developed a useful relationship with fear, I call it useful because now I use fear as a launch pad; no longer is it a cage that keeps me bound. Fear uses deception to appear much bigger than what it actually is, like a magic trick; you think you know what you are seeing but it’s actually an illusion. In the past I would summon fear, scream at it and wait for it to…
I’ve met some pretty resilient people in life; David, a music maestro from Kinshasa, Democratic Republic of Congo is one of them. He’s in my husband’s circles; they make music together and share a passion for delicious food. I’ve never really had a conversation with David; it’s usually just “Hi Mama” “Hi David” then he and my husband excuse themselves to go and make music. The first time I heard David speak for more than…
Meet Jennifer, my hairdresser, she is the personification of what it means to say good bye to your comfort zone. Jennifer helped my dreadlocks recover from an abusive relationship with a dodgy dreadlocks guy in Cosmo City, north of Johannesburg; I didn’t know how dreadlocks are supposed to be done so I trusted that he knew best. Anyway, Jennifer is originally from Uganda and came to SA about two years ago to look for work…
I first heard about Dr. Dermartini about 3 years ago while attending the Real Entrepreneur Intensive Course by Brian Walsh. He was one of the self-improvement gurus that was mentioned in our workbook. His focus was values and how they control our lives constructively or destructively. While flipping through the pages about him, Brian’s voice faded into a “blah-blah blah, blah-blah blah…” Dr. Dermartini’s work drew me in. Next thing I know, I hear a…
It’s international women’s month and the theme this year is #BalanceforBetter. May we balance-for-better our views on marriage? There seems to be something in the air that‘s making more and more women sink into a state of desperation (or even depression) in their quest for a husband. I believe that marriage is a beautiful union of two people that pledge to spend their lives together. It isn’t a magical ticket to a happily-ever-after content and…
If I wanted to run the comrades marathon I’d have to train hard, change my diet, get the right mindset; physical and mental preparation would be required for me to complete the course. It doesn’t matter how much I wish for the course to be shorter and easier, it’s not going to happen. The only thing I CAN DO is prepare myself. When it comes to living a happy content life, we fantasize about how…
There is only one person my first blog post MUST be dedicated to, my grand-mother, Mamcirha Nocawa Lubemba who is no longer with us, she passed on just a few days before Christmas on 19 December 2018. What a source of inspiration! My earliest memory of Mama was me plaiting 10 strands of hair on her balding head when I was around 6 years old. I could never understand why she wanted it plaited; couldn’t…